Parental Alienation – The New Face of Divorce Violence

Session : Workshop 1-1: Current Status of Research on Shared Parenting and Family Violence

  • Time : 10:05 am PDT To 11:20 am PDT on
  • Venue : Virtual Room 1

Full Abstract

The “parental alienation” phenomenon is defined as a situation in which a child refuses or breaks off a good parenting relationship due to the divorce process and unjustified or natural reasons. An estranged child will be in complete disdain for the deferred parent's actions, the use of aliases from the adult world, and the rejection of the extended family, friends, and even the pet associated with that parent This extreme behavior will be accompanied by a lack of ambivalence, guilt or remorse. In contrast, toward the preferred parent, the child will express complete feelings of identification and trust. This is different from the behaviors of children who have been subject to neglect or physical violence, which often express mixed feelings and attempts to maintain contact with the abusive parent. International studies from the past decade indicate that parental alienation has long-term effects on the mental health of children. The poisonous emotional dynamics produce programming and extinction of authentic memories and experiences that were shared by the children before. The result is graduates with low self-esteem, self-hatred, a lack of confidence, a tendency to depression and loss. Also, the phenomenon has a worrying social aspect, since in many cases it is also restored to the next generation. Hence the reference to this phenomenon emerges as a violent phenomenon towards children When addressing the phenomenon is examined through the parents' prism, we are all deprived of the ability and obligation to put the affected child at the center and find the solution for him, which will ensure that his covert wish, a secure and stable relationship with his two parents. Worldwide, there is a growing realization that in the absence of targeted system care, parental alienation has become a pandemic, affecting 10% to 15% of families of divorce, and has even recently been validated by the World Health Organization, beginning in January 2020 on ICD-11 The European as a phenomenon affecting children's psyche In recent years, Israeli Family Courts have begun to recognize parental alienation as a violent act of parenting against a child, and as of January 2019, a special project is running in the Family Court in Tel Aviv, which has expanded across Israel. As part of the project, a referee was appointed who is responsible for managing the cases related to parental alienation, and in all matters related to severing parent-child contact. Because the proceedings in the courts have been going on for months and no satisfactory solution has been provided for severing the relationship, which could result in widening the disconnect, it has been decided to shorten the proceedings - and today when the Family Court's assistance unit identifies a case of disconnection, the appeal form is forwarded to the referee, which is required to hold a hearing. 14 days to review the claim. If there is a cause, the referee will send the parents to a professional from the pre-prepared care pool to help provide a solution for severing and severe alienation. In extreme cases, where there is no cooperation on the part of the estranged or detached parent, the authority of the referee to transfer custody to the other parent. The reference to the treatment of parental alienation as a reference to the treatment of domestic violence, in terms of legal procedure. In recent months a number of rulings have been made, in which custody of the children has been transferred to the estranged or detached parent, after the abusive parent has not cooperated, the cities have difficulties and the professionals claimed that this was a violent act for all intents and purposes. In our time of chemistry, there can be little doubt that violence against children in divorce does not only exist as physical, verbal or economic violence. It is precisely the parental alienation, especially when the incitement of children is not done directly but indirectly and unconsciously, and then parents justify their behavior despite knowing that it is abusive and violent - there is a need to treat parental alienation as a violent phenomenon for all intents and purposes and to produce ways of treatment. Proper, like the way the family court in Tel Aviv created